Saturday, November 12, 2016

School Offices Must Serve as Sanctuaries

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As Abby walked into the school building she had a sinking feeling in her stomach. It was November and she had just moved into a new community. She was nervous about starting a new school midway through the school year. This was her first day of school and she kept her eyes down, nervous, not knowing what to expect as she walked into the main office. Suddenly, the office secretary called out to her in a tone that made her skip a breath, “Where are you supposed to be?  Do you have a pass?  Move on now before the tardy bell rings and the vice principal gives you a detention for being late.”

Each day in school offices across the country this scenario is playing out with regularity.  Although it may come across as somewhat exaggerated, those of you who have spent any amount of time in school have probably at one time or another been witness to such an interaction in the main office area.  It is these defined interactions that has led to us to ponder this question.  Have we reached the point where we are willing to allow negative interactions to drive the level of success of our students, staff and our school? What if we were to pause, step back and view our office culture through the eyes of students, parents, guests or even staff who visit the main office? What would they say?  If we manage our interactions appropriately they will leave feeling valued and cared for and look forward to their next return trip.

Great office cultures are created by design, not by default or serendipity.  As school leaders, we must be cautious of the sounds around us. Don’t get so lost in the noise that you fail to listen to the words that are being spoken or more importantly, how they are being spoken. Take time to examine the conversations with a critical eye. Be present enough to notice the faces of those who both work in and enter your offices. Do their faces shine bright or do they seem stressed and burdened? Is their tone kind and sincere or is it harsh and tempered? Are the conversations positive and focused on how we can help others, or are they self-serving? Is every telephone call answered and every guest greeted in a manner that leaves the person thinking that they are the most important person to you in that very moment?

Imagine an office where the mindset of every staff member who served as an administrative assistant believed that that their title was the Director of First Impressions.  As school leaders, shouldn’t we strive to ensure that every office has this same expectation as a job title? More importantly, are we as school administrators modeling this title in our interactions with others on a daily basis?  

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Does your office environment have the elements of a morale builder or morale killer?

Morale Builder                                                                               Morale Killer

  • Student’s 1st                                                                              Adult Centered
  • Servant Leader                                                                          Self-Serving
  • Flexible                                                                                       Rigid
  • Works with Team                                                                     Prefers Isolation
  • Maintains Confidentiality                                                       Encourages Gossip
  • Cherishes Conversations                                                         Sees Interactions As Disruption
  • Takes Initiative                                                                          Makes Excuses
  • Embraces Conflict                                                                     Avoids Differences
  • Engaging                                                                                     Unpleasant
  • Grateful                                                                                       Unappreciative

School offices must serve as sanctuaries of support where people can come to have their morales boosted, not suppressed. Schools are filled with thousands of interactions a day that can either diminish or enhance the experiences of members of our school communities.  Does your school practice a set of guiding principles that serve as a model of how to treat others?

If not, it is time to re-examine the noise and harness the conversations in a way that will influence the personality of your office areas in a positive way so that your first impression will be a great first impression; an experience everyone deserves.

 

“A conversation is so much more than words: a conversion is eyes, smiles, the silences between words.”

 Annika Thor



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Friday, November 11, 2016

Being a Fountain

More of a message to myself than anyone else…

Sometimes people post things at exactly the right time.  My good friend, Amber Teamann, posted this on her blog titled, “Calm the Storm…You’re the Principal”.  These words resonated:

What I have learned, through that example and several others, is that students (or grown-ups!) are going to take their cue from the way others are acting/reacting around them.

When we get data that comes back lower than what we want to see, how I disseminate it impacts how my teachers react& handle it. If I go in, gun a’blazing, there is a defensive tone in the air. It becomes me against them, which is NEVER good for anyone. If I come in ready and willing to discuss and help with a plan of action, the air of willingness and collaboration is practically tangible.

Reading this seemingly at the right moment, I was having a rough day, and knowing that I work with new people every day, I was doing everything to stay positive.  Your attitude is contagious, good or bad. I know this.  Sometimes I know this and I still struggle to stay positive.  I, as everyone else, am a work in progress.

Negative thoughts often creep into my head when I am exhausted, frustrated, overwhelmed, or tired.  An education student (who might be a teacher now), gave me a piece of advice for when negative doubt comes into my head when I am tired on runs, or other situations.  She said that a trick she learned from someone else was to focus on the word PACE, which stands for “Positive Attitude Changes Everything”.  I use this often, and when I do, I can say it helps.  It doesn’t fix things, but it helps me to better, so I can continue to grow.

Now there are lots of things going on the world that are bringing anxiety to people. I get it.  But how we listen to others and, as Amber stated, stay calm through tough times, can be powerful.  We need to listen to each other more.  Reflect more. Think whether we are a fountain or drain; do we empower others around us or suck the life out of them?

Here is one thing that I know about the work that I do…I meet new and very diverse people every single day, from different cultures, beliefs, and experiences, and every single day, more of these “strangers” are  a fountain for me, than drains. The trick is that I do everything I can to look for it. Some days are better than others, but I am always looking.

Sometimes we just seem to focus on negatives more, but as the saying goes, “Do not let anyone rent space in your head unless they are a good tenant.” I am doing my best to look and understand inward, before I make assumptions outward.  We all need to try and be that fountain for ourself and others.  The world will always need it.

A nice little reminder I saw this morning that happiness is contagious:

Source: George Couros



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A Creepy Ghost Story: The Family Plot by Cherie Priest

It's been quite awhile since I've read a novel that creeped me out.  It was creepy  enough that I decided to only read it during the day, on my lunch hour in a busy hospital cafeteria. Either I'm getting soft, or it was a pretty darn good ghost story.

It was a pretty darn good ghost story.

I love Cherie Priest's writing.  Her Eden More series is about restless souls; usually from the Civil War Era.  She followed that up with her steampunk Clockwork Century novels; Boneshaker really put her on the radar of a lot of science fiction/fantasy fans.  I did read Boneshaker years ago, and did enjoy it quite a bit, but her gift, to me, lies in her ability to make you uneasy in the comfort of your own home.  And that is what The Family Plot did to me. 

Music City Salvage is on the cusp of financial ruin, and one big job will save the company.  Enter Augusta Withrow, the last member of the Withrow family.  For $40,000, Music City Salvage gets all the rights to her family's estate before it's torn down.  They have a week to claim everything they can from the house, the barn, and carriage house. 

Dahlia, Bobby, Gabe, and Brad travel to Chattanooga to the Withrow estate, up a badly maintained road on the side of a mountain.  What should be a routine salvage job is not so routine as eerie things start right from the get-go.  Is the house angry at its demise, or is there something else in the house that is really, really angry?  And why is Dahlia the center of all the attention?

One thing that annoys me about paranormal fiction is a super slow buildup in tension.  Don't get that here--it starts right away, and thankfully, Dahlia, Bobby, Gabe and Brad start comparing notes on what they've experienced pretty quickly.  Showering in any bathroom at the house is a very bad idea.  Going up to the attic by yourself?  Bad idea.  Trying to reason with the paranormal?  Bad idea.  It's a race to finish the job and get the hell out of dodge for this crew.  Things start escalating as they near the end of their time at the house and start putting the pieces together to discover what, exactly, happened in the Withrow home all those years ago that has made the place a nightmare for anyone who tries to make it a home.  

The end...well... it's one of those endings where you get to decide how it should end.  

Loved the mystery of the house; it truly was enough to make me uneasy, and I don't scare easily (Unless you're a bat. Then I freak out.  Ghosts?  No.).  Sometimes the evil that is done to people sets off emotions that don't die when our physical bodies stop.  Yikes.

Rating:  8/10 for a truly chilling story.  My appreciation for Cherie Priest's writing grows with every book she writes.  

Available in hardcover and e-book.    
 



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Thursday, November 10, 2016

Being a Fountain

More of a message to myself than anyone else…

Sometimes people post things at exactly the right time.  My good friend, Amber Teamann, posted this on her blog titled, “Calm the Storm…You’re the Principal”.  These words resonated:

What I have learned, through that example and several others, is that students (or grown-ups!) are going to take their cue from the way others are acting/reacting around them.

When we get data that comes back lower than what we want to see, how I disseminate it impacts how my teachers react& handle it. If I go in, gun a’blazing, there is a defensive tone in the air. It becomes me against them, which is NEVER good for anyone. If I come in ready and willing to discuss and help with a plan of action, the air of willingness and collaboration is practically tangible.

Reading this seemingly at the right moment, I was having a rough day, and knowing that I work with new people every day, I was doing everything to stay positive.  Your attitude is contagious, good or bad. I know this.  Sometimes I know this and I still struggle to stay positive.  I, as everyone else, am a work in progress.

Negative thoughts often creep into my head when I am exhausted, frustrated, overwhelmed, or tired.  An education student (who might be a teacher now), gave me a piece of advice for when negative doubt comes into my head when I am tired on runs, or other situations.  She said that a trick she learned from someone else was to focus on the word PACE, which stands for “Positive Attitude Changes Everything”.  I use this often, and when I do, I can say it helps.  It doesn’t fix things, but it helps me to better, so I can continue to grow.

Now there are lots of things going on the world that are bringing anxiety to people. I get it.  But how we listen to others and, as Amber stated, stay calm through tough times, can be powerful.  We need to listen to each other more.  Reflect more. Think whether we are a fountain or drain; do we empower others around us or suck the life out of them?

Here is one thing that I know about the work that I do…I meet new and very diverse people every single day, from different cultures, beliefs, and experiences, and every single day, more of these “strangers” are  a fountain for me, than drains. The trick is that I do everything I can to look for it. Some days are better than others, but I am always looking.

Sometimes we just seem to focus on negatives more, but as the saying goes, “Do not let anyone rent space in your head unless they are a good tenant.” I am doing my best to look and understand inward, before I make assumptions outward.  We all need to try and be that fountain for ourself and others.  The world will always need it.

A nice little reminder I saw this morning that happiness is contagious:



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Are You Showing Up Well For Your Students?


I wrote a post recently with ideas for creating school environments that are supportive and help students "show up well" and ready to learn. A positive school and classroom culture can help overcome some of the negatives in a student's life that may be impacting their emotional and educational well-being.

In the post, I also mentioned that adults who work in schools must also work at "showing up well." We have to take care of ourselves and each other to have the type of supportive environment that we all need.

Teaching is stressful. In fact, teaching seems to be among the most stressful professions in America. A 2014 Gallup Poll found that nearly half of all teachers reported high levels of stress from the previous day. It was the most stressful profession in the study, slightly ahead of doctors and nurses in terms of reported stress.


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Stress takes a significant toll on the individual, but it certainly impacts our effectiveness as educators, too. If teachers are feeling high levels of stress or are otherwise emotionally drained, it is not possible to show up well and meet the needs of students.

So why are teachers feeling so stressed? There are a variety of factors. Heavy workloads, challenging student behaviors, lack of autonomy and voice, and high stakes assessments might be a few reasons. Some of the factors are completely out of the control of educators. And some of the factors are just inherent in working with kids. It's awesome to work with kids, but stressful at the same time.


There is an important truth in this quote from Salome Thomas-El. We can't always control the weight of our load. We have to look for ways to find the strength we need to show up well and be our very best. Our #KidsDeserveIt!!!

If you are struggling to show up well in your classroom, it can result in anger, resentment, frustration, depression, and other hurtful emotions. Actually, these emotions will probably show up from your students, too. As educators, what we model is typically what we get. 

Here are some ideas on resilience for teachers and taking care of your own mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. I'm not great at all of these, that's for sure. But I recognize their importance and how they help me to be my best when I do have success in these areas.

1. Focus on your purpose and the meaning in your work.

A recent Edutopia article explained how stress in itself is not necessarily bad. Stress tends to be negative when it doesn't seem like it is meaningful. I'm reminded of the pain mothers endure in child birth, and yet it is worth it (so I am told) because of the miraculous value of bringing a child into the world and being a mother. In fact, moms often willingly do it all over again. The deep meaning of the experience must make it worth the pain.

2. Recognize you are making a difference.

This letter posted by Danny Steele on his blog really captures the commitment and dedication of teachers. You are making a difference. 

3. Build a support system at work.

We need people at work who believe in us and who inspire us. Surround yourself with people who energize you. Stay away from energy vampires, who might suck the life out of your day.



4. Develop a support system away from work.

Beyond work, we also need healthy relationships that strengthen us. It's tough to do life alone, and we all need to rely on others. If you are struggling to find your support system, try to be that person for someone else. Giving to others is a great way to find people who can also lift you up.

5. Learn to say no.

Focus on the things that are most essential to your mission and purpose. Being busy isn't a happiness killer in itself. But when you are too busy doing things that you aren't even passionate about, that's a sure recipe for burnout.

6. Make spiritual wellness a top priority.

My spiritual life is important to me. I need to nurture my relationship with God and rely on him for guidance if I'm going to show up well and be my best for my students. 

7. Relieve stress by exercising.

When I feel stress or anxiety building throughout the week, a long run does wonders to help me relax. There are so many bad habits we can turn to as a stress reliever. But exercise is good for you and helps ease the stress.

8. Eat well.

I really struggle to eat well. I love fast food, pizza, and ice cream. But when I am eating too much of the wrong stuff, I can tell it impacts my ability to be my best overall.

9. Set boundaries.

Healthy people don't let others run over them. They set boundaries and they communicate their thoughts and feelings to others. A lack of boundaries will eventually lead to simmering resentment or angry outbursts. Ask for what you want. But also listen to others and respect their boundaries. 

10. Practice being grateful.

Gratitude is one of the most powerful things you can do for your emotional health. Be honest with yourself about your struggles, but also be always grateful. There are blessings in each day and even our difficult circumstances have the power to make us better if we choose to grow.

11. Forgive yourself and others.

Let go of things that are in the past. Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is ourselves. As educators, we have to be willing to forgive. Bitterness is a heavy burden to carry.


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12. Remain always hopeful.

If you're like me, you don't want anything to feel like it's out of your control. You desire a sense of security and predictability. But life doesn't work that way, and the only way to have peace is to give up on worry and live in the present moment. Our worries tend to live in the past or in the future. Hope is believing good things are possible and headed our way. In the mean time, we must live in the current moment.

13. Have fun!!! Enjoy the journey.

Last Friday, I had a lip sync battle at lunch with one of our other teachers. It was for a good cause. We were raising money for Care to Learn, a charity that helps students in need. But it also helps me to not take myself too seriously. I like to joke around and make laughter a part of each day.


14. Keep learning and growing.

Whatever problem you may be facing, you have the power to do something if you are willing to learn and keep growing. I don't feel as stressed when I feel like I can learn from my difficulties. I view challenges as opportunities for growth, instead of stress inducing burdens.

15. Take risks.

One of the biggest regrets people have is playing it too safe. If you really want to get the most out of life you have to be bold and take risks. 



Question: How are you working to "show up well" for your students? How are you managing stress as an educator? I want to hear from you. Leave a comment below or respond on Facebook or Twitter.


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Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Give Me Time to Think, Connect, and Reflect

So many people go to conferences and they will say things like, “I really loved the speaker, but I really loved the time that I had to connect with colleagues informally and share our ideas.”

I could not agree with this statement more.

Too often when I speak at events, their is a short break before educators have to rush to their next session,  because the organizers are trying to make the most out of the time for participants.  What we don’t realize is that educators do not have enough time to talk to each other; it feels like they are either teaching or being taught.  Yet conferences need to embed times where participants can do more than grab a snack and go to the bathroom.

As someone who speaks at these events, I do my best to spark thinking and challenge people, not just give them ideas to implement in the classroom. Learning would be so much deeper if participants could have conversations with their colleagues to make their own connections; I can’t make these connections for them.  I know we often talk about “personalized learning” but all learning is personal.  These unstructured times are extremely valuable to education.

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Often when I am leading workshops, I give prompts for conversations and I explicitly tell the adults in the room, “If I come to sit down at your table, do not pretend to be talking about these questions, if you aren’t.  This is your time and it is valuable. Use it how you see fit.”

My hope in writing this is that we do not just see this time as valuable for adults, but for kids as well.  What if we didn’t just give kids breaks, but looked at them as networking and reflection time? Would that change the way we taught when kids are leaving our rooms for their own “breaks”?

Some of the best learning that can take place in a day, although deliberate, can be unplanned.  We can’t expect people to “think” if we don’t give them the time to do so.

Source: George Couros



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Give Me Time to Think, Connect, and Reflect

So many people go to conferences and they will say things like, “I really loved the speaker, but I really loved the time that I had to connect with colleagues informally and share our ideas.”

I could not agree with this statement more.

Too often when I speak at events, their is a short break before educators have to rush to their next session,  because the organizers are trying to make the most out of the time for participants.  What we don’t realize is that educators do not have enough time to talk to each other; it feels like they are either teaching or being taught.  Yet conferences need to embed times where participants can do more than grab a snack and go to the bathroom.

As someone who speaks at these events, I do my best to spark thinking and challenge people, not just give them ideas to implement in the classroom. Learning would be so much deeper if participants could have conversations with their colleagues to make their own connections; I can’t make these connections for them.  I know we often talk about “personalized learning” but all learning is personal.  These unstructured times are extremely valuable to education.

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Often when I am leading workshops, I give prompts for conversations and I explicitly tell the adults in the room, “If I come to sit down at your table, do not pretend to be talking about these questions, if you aren’t.  This is your time and it is valuable. Use it how you see fit.”

My hope in writing this is that we do not just see this time as valuable for adults, but for kids as well.  What if we didn’t just give kids breaks, but looked at them as networking and reflection time? Would that change the way we taught when kids are leaving our rooms for their own “breaks”?

Some of the best learning that can take place in a day, although deliberate, can be unplanned.  We can’t expect people to “think” if we don’t give them the time to do so.



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